So I ended up secretly looking up gay places to go to try to meet people. “I didn’t have any gay friends so I didn’t really know where to go and I wasn’t ready to tell anyone or even sure I was gay to ask other people.
I actually had a really good time and became a regular at the local bar, in fact, I met my 1st “real” girlfriend at this same club and we were together for two years!” – Micki Gamez Not Fitting In or Feeling Accepted I walked around and got back to the door and as soon as I started to walk out my friends yell out my name, pull me over to them and instantly my feelings changed. At that moment I became uncomfortable so I said to myself that I’ll do a circle around the club to try and find my friends and if I don’t see them I’ll leave. I walked in and saw women dancing with other women, kissing, and men doing the same. But considering how all of my friends were going for a friends birthday I went.
I felt like if I went to one then it would be real and that would mean I was really a lesbian. Now I had a girlfriend and always said to myself that this was just a phase and I would one day marry a man and have kids which is why I never went to gay or lesbian bars/clubs. Now, this set of friends were open and out of the closet and I told them that I was straight. I was invited by a group of friends to a club called “Hollywood” to celebrate a friends birthday. “For me being a 21-year-old woman in college and still in the closet, I remember my first time going to a lesbian bar like it was yesterday. My Fear Was That I Was Gay, and Me Going Would Confirm It Shortly after that, I said to myself, I’m here to have a good time and that’s what I did.” – Michael Brown That No One Would Want To Talk To Me After that, I realized that I shouldn’t worry about that, dancing with someone you don’t know is going to happen at a club. After cursing him out and yelling at him, saying not to f**king touch me. And the funny thing it, that’s what happen! I went to a club with my aunt and she pushed a random guy on me, he thought I was cute so he just started grinding on me. “I was shy so the fear that some random guy would walk up to me and start grinding on me scared me to death. But if I ran into someone I knew that didn’t have a clue as to what my sexuality was, how would you have that conversation and what would you say in a club.” – Canaan Perry Random Guys Dancing/Grinding On Me Because I never came out verbally, I was who I was and I was okay with it. “For me, it wasn’t just the fear of seeing someone I knew, but the part of explaining why I was there.
Don’t think so much of it, go and have fun! Trust me you’ll have a good time!” – Drew Friday Seeing Someone I Know They’re there to do a job, create a sexy environment and that just part of that. Well, I was right! But what I didn’t realize was, if you don’t bother them they won’t bother you.
NEW ORLEANS GAY BARS STRIPPERS TV
“We all have that one shy friend and, yes, don’t let the pictures fool you – I’m extremely shy! And I thought it was going to be like the club scenes I saw in tv shows like Will & Grace, Noah’s Arc, or The L Word where the dancers ran around naked and tried to give you a lap dance the whole night. Seeing Naked Men & Women (GoGo Dancers/Strippers) So, we surveyed 6 people on what their fears were the first time they attended a gay or lesbian bar/club. We want a way to help other members of our community and our family and friends understand that hey, we all have these fears and all it takes is just an ounce of courage to go out there and be yourself. Where do you go? How do you dress? What if someone I know sees me? What if security spots my fake I.D? Those are just some of the thoughts that cross the minds of gays everywhere when making their decisions. We all know that there are many hard parts of being an LGBTQ person, but then we recall that one time we went to a gay club for the first time.